Far too often we rely on others to yield us the motivation to pursue our aims and dreams. As if there is a requirement to some kind of validation that we can actually achieve them. But not everyone will understand your fantasies. And it doesn’t ever mean that they don’t believes in you. They’re more likely projecting their own worlds or anxieties onto you. That’s why we must learn how to be our own cheerleaders.
I am a dreamer. I’ve always been and ever will. I also contend a great deal with self-doubt and often have a hard time believing in myself. That makes an interesting combination, doesn’t it?
As much as I dislike to acknowledge it, I expect others to authenticate my nightmares and my ability to achieve them.
For instance, it’s hard for my parents to understand some of my dreamings. I know they ever have my back and subscribe me no matter what but I don’t think they genuinely believe that I can do it. They want to believe that I can but deep down they don’t. That’s because they projecting their own worlds onto me.
One of the reasons why I’m thankful for the blogging world is because it opened my hearts to possibility. It’s so refreshing and sanctioning to speak other people’s narrations: from beings making money from their blogs to starting their own successful firms. That showed me that yes, as practicable. And if they can do it, I can do it, too.
My parent’s reality is much different though. They’re used to working for the same corporation for the last 30+ years, surrounded by people who are not enthusiastic about their jobs. That’s why it can be hard for them to believe in a different reality.
How I’m Learning To Be My Own Cheerleader
Often we don’t celebrate our own accomplishments unless someone else approves them or we don’t go after a illusion because others don’t believe we can make it a reality. But we don’t necessary a love sorority, we can be our own motivating. That said, here’s how I’m learning to be my own cheerleader.
Write a make container index.
A couple of months ago I came across the concept of a reverse bucket list and decided to write mine. Here’s something I took from it: when you make the time to weigh your accomplishments, you realize that you have a bunch of things to feel proud of. Positioning destinations can assist you move forward, but it’s also important to not lose sight of all the things you’ve accomplished so far. It will give you more motivation to keep moving forward.
Drive on my positive self-talk.
Being your own cheerleader conveys learning to talk more kindly to yourself. When you continue saying the same things to yourself over and over again, you start believing in them. So that’s why it’s important to be mindful of your self-talk and make sure it is positive. It’s easier said than done but rely me, it’s worth the effort. And that’s why I want to keep working on silencing my internal reviewer in 2018.
Suppose I am my best friend.
Would you say to your best friend what you say to yourself? I certainly wouldn’t and that’s what I’m trying to remember when working on my self-talk. We can be so hard on ourselves and after years doing it, we see it as regular. So next time you’re putting yourself down, ask yourself: What would I say to motivate my best friend? Then say it to yourself.
” Somedays you just have to create your own sunshine .”
How do you cause yourself?
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